It's A Korean Thing

 

2014 is coming to an end soon and everyone, I guess is anticipating this month of December mostly because of Christmas. I bet couples already have a list of what to do, where to go, what to eat, what present to be given to their other half. I am not sure whether you have already know, but there is an additional day where Korean couples celebrate in Korea.

Koreans have a specific day every month to do a specific thing. It is a mid-month celebrations for couples in Korea. To be specific, the said day is the 14th of every month. I don't actually know this beforehand until I saw a post on Allkpop. You may check the post and its explanation of each specific day here.

For easy referencing, I have list down the mid-month celebration as follow:

Jan 14th - Diary Day
Feb 14th - Valentine's Day
Mac 14th - White Day
Apr 14th - Black Day
May 14th - Yellow Day / Rose Day
June 14th - Kiss Day
July 14th - Silver Day
Aug 14th - Green Day
Sept 14th - Photo Day/ Music Day
Oct 14th - Wine Day
Nov 14th- Movie Night
Dec 14th - Hug Day

I am not sure about what you think on this mid-month celebrations practiced by Koreans but I find it quite pretty and it isn't a bad idea to celebrate it. And actually Korea couple don't just show their affection on these particular days, they actually show it all-year-long. Koreans couples, be it man or woman, they are not afraid or shame in showing off their affections publicly. You may easily spot couples with matching clothes, shoes, bags or whatever you can mention. For singles, you need to be mentally strong enough to walk on the streets in Korea or else you will be defeated by endless of jealousy and envious, and mostly loneliness.

Since it's December now, let's talk a bit on it. Actually I have never anticipated the coming of December since 5 years ago. I know that most people anticipated December because of Christmas. I once thought December will be a month I anticipated much beside January (my birth month). However, everything changed 5 years ago, which was also the year where I anticipated the coming of December more than ever.

Dec 24th, Christmas Eve, an excuse where people use to gather around for celebration. Be it with your family, friends or special half. 5 years ago, that day used to be meaningful for me because it will be a day where I not only get to exchange present with other, it was also a day where I will celebrate the birth day of someone whom I used to love so dearly. Dec 24th is my ex's birthday. While I was still scratching my head to come out with a special events to make him happy, on this very Dec 14th he decided to put an end towards our relationship.

5 years had passed, but this Dec 14th is still clearly embedded in my mind and heart. NO, it's not that I am still clinging to him, I have gotten over him. It's just that that particular day, the memory I had is way too difficult to just let it go. It all started 5 years ago where I, subconsciously will be emo during every December. To be honest, there was a time where I hated December very much.

For this fifth year, when I get to know that Dec 14th is a Hug Day (it's freezing winter in Korea, so you hug people to give warm) I could imagine how lonely it is for singles on this particular day. No no, I am not being too emo this time (though it is better to have someone hugging you). After my long time from Korea this autumn, something has change my mindset. Being singles isn't bad after all. I get to know people regardless of sex, need to worry if I try to pick on any Korean guy or adoring any guy. Or another word, I do not have to worry, or I should say I have the right to flirt with any guy I am interested in (of course if only the guy is single too).

Though I would love to date someone now, I think it is better for me to stay being single for the moment. For those who are currently in a relationship, may you have a good Christmas with your loved ones and do not forget to give him/her a hug on Dec 14th. For those who are single like me, may you get to find someone special this Christmas. Happy December peeps!

p/s : Yes, I went to Korea this autumn and I had an amazing Korea tour (as you may see from the picture above where I took a picture with a quite ok Korean guy). I am not sure when I will finish blog about it and I will try to make time for it. Till then, see ya! n_n

It isn't easy to be bad to be kind

The above picture has nothing to do with this post, just that I really hope both parties can work it out and we get what we and the members hope for, Girls' Generation with 9 members.

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I have been lucky that my parents strictly implemented the important of education in my mind since I was young. I am lucky enough to have love studying and had always been in the first/top classes or been assigned in the group with better grade. Though I lost 1/3 of the passion in studying after PMR, I am determined to at least get a degree before putting an end to schooling life.

People around me especially my high schoolmate have always considered me as the best student, the one who know it all when it comes to education. I admit that I am a bit arrogant as I have always been in the first class. And I do feel bad being treated as the smart one when I am not really that smart.

I have heard people told me that I am soft and kind, those kind of person. While I am not that smart, I am more that happy to provide assistance as long as I am capable of. Be it in study or companion, I give my best to provide help. While companion may be a bit hard as I am not that kind of person that could just leave my house at any time or any occasion. But if my knowledge in education is essential, I will provide as much as I can. 

HOWEVER, there is a limit to what I can help or saying how much I am willing to help. As a student myself, I believe the top most responsibility is to study hard. The basic one will be doing your assignment by your own. Isn't this the most basic one for every student out there?

While people think that I am better in English and people would like my favour in checking their assignment piece, I am more than happy to proofread the essay to check those minor mistakes or to pinpoint those sentences which seem grammatically wrong. But please remember that there is a limit to what I can provide.

I know there are people out there who do your assignment for some fee. I totally oppose to this kind of facility. I believe that it is your own responsibility to do assignment given that you have chosen to study. No matter what are the offer you could give me, I will not do your assignment for you.

Each one of us have a different writing style. Lecturer are smarter than what you think they are as they can easily find out whether that piece of essay is from you yourself or from another hand. Please don't assume that they won't find out just because they need to mark hundreds of papers.

I do not know what are your relationship with that friend of you that you are the only one who he/she can beg for help. I am thankful that you think of me, but I do not like being taken for granted. It is not one or twice, if I still provide assistance this time, I am pretty sure there won't be an end for this. I know you are trying to be helpful, but you shouldn't have promise your friend with something that is beyond your capabilities.

I remembered clearly that I told you last time, that the best will be your friend taking an additional course to brush up his/her English. If you are saying it is too rush, then why do you always only ask for help when the deadline is near and why don't you take action before it happen when you already know the same thing will happen? You are asking people not only to proofread your piece, you are also asking people to help you rephrase it. I am not you, I won't be able to know clearly what you are trying to say by just looking at your grammatically wrong sentence.

I know it isn't easy to paraphrase a quote when you need to cite it in your piece. Your vocabulary need to be strong  and I know it is hard. There are various way for citation and if you can't really paraphrase it, just cite the quote as it is. Citation is something you need to be familiar with and it is you top best friends in college life.

I would like to help, but I do have my own principle to. I won't do something beyond my principle. You may say I am being bad for not proving help at this very last moment where you hardly can find help from other people. But I am sure that you will not take action to correct and rather depend on other people if I still help you this time. Yes, I am being cruel with the hope that you take action to upgrade yourself and not just depend on other people.

Like I said before, I am more than happy to help but I do have my own principle. Thanks.

我很坏吗？

今年将会是我单身的第五年了。真的不知不觉就这样就五年了。时间真的过的很快。有时我都在问自己为何还是单身，但就是得不到答案。自然而然，我也放弃了去追问，让一切顺其自然。也因让一让，就来到了第五年了。

现在的我已开始工作了，身边的同事都是已有伴侣的。我并不是想说在公司里没希望因为我根本没想过也根本不想在公司里跟任何一人有较亲密的接触，达到恋人的关系。虽然在一起工作可以天天见面，但这不是理想的。可以避免的话，我不想要这样。

慢慢跟同事聊天，就慢慢的发觉她们都是有男朋友的。每当一一的发现她们是在恋爱的，我都会在心里面小小声地问自己我到底怎么了。我自问我并不差，学历算不错，样貌也不算丑。但我就是孤独一人。

有位同事， 她大我一年，当然比我有工作经验。可是她对工作或者生活的思想真的有时蛮幼子。我并不是想说我很成熟，但她的那个程度真的有够令我难以接受。就比如说加班到7点才回，她就一副丑脸那样，还跟我说已经有两天她10点晚上才吃晚餐。小姐，本公主我差不多每晚八点半才离公司，每晚十点才吃晚餐。你那两天算什么？你在这行做了两年有多，难道你不比我根了解这一行的工作时间吗？我都还没怨你怨什么？

最令我生气的就是她这条件的女生都能找到男朋友而我找不到。我知道有这样的想法的我真的很坏，可是我真的控制不了也理解不到。是我本人太有问题还是我的个性太过自我？我真的想不通咯。

有人说我眼角高，但我是吗?我并没有说我要一个怎样怎样或者有什么条件的男朋友。我只想找一个能让我动心，对我真心的人，难道这样就是眼角高吗？谈恋爱不就是要找一个真心对待自己的人吗？如果他不能让你动心，你又如何会爱上他呢？难道我这道理是无理取闹吗？

请告诉我，我到底有那里不好，不好到没人要。

一路好走

原本我想把2014年的第一个post来写下我今年如何度过我的生日。但我觉得没别的事比这个根重要。还记得，当我还陶醉在生日的回忆里，突然间受到这消息，我真的很不敢相信。

在15晚上，本来我很很兴奋拿到我已就等的电话。就在那时爸爸和哥哥就立刻出发去Kedah看我的师公。他是我爸爸的妈妈，我叫他为师公是因为她在约20年前出家了。知道他进医院了我的确很想跟着爸爸上Kedah。但应为有做工，所以不能去。 那时的我太累了，什么都想不到。好想师公没事，把工作赶快做完，让后可以安心的区澳洲。

16早上一醒来，妈妈就敲我的房门，说有东西要跟我讲。她小小声地说师公走了。还没睡醒的我还没来及有什么感受。妈妈就问我澳洲怎么办，还要不要去。我说我可以取消它。妈妈怕我没得去会不开心。其实说真的我并没有对这个旅行很兴奋。妈妈说师公的尸体会送回来KL。我知道我需要载妈妈去富贵那里，但我那天真的没办法拿假因为我还有东西还没干完。她说没关系，要我上班。她很不想离开我的房，但我告诉她我要准备上班了。

当妈妈离开房间后，自己一人在房的我，突然间流起眼泪了。我知道我很伤心但我知道还没来得及反应。回到公司跟上司说了要取消澳洲之旅，她就叫我快点回家不用上班了。谢谢所有很疼爱和关心我的同事们。

回到家跟妈妈吃了早餐后，就睡了一觉。然后受到哥哥的电话就出发去富贵那里了。之后的五天都在那里度过了。在那期间，我一滴眼泪都没流过。这是坚强吗？我不晓得为何我能一滴眼泪都没有。出奔那天，爸爸交代不能哭，因为他是师公。当时还没有任何感受，因为在期间都能看到师公，只不过师公是躺在棺材里。

记得22那天去拿师公的骨灰，那天的我很突然的感觉的空虚了。开始感觉到师公走了是个现实。我再也没办法看到他，触摸到他了。剩下的只是回忆，看到的只是照片。莫名其妙的空虚感一直冲着我而来。之后那几天我都很伤心。真的崩溃了。

本来还打算新年去看师公，没想到再也看不到了。看着师公的尸体，很想抓着师公的手。因为他生前我都会一直抓着他的手。那一份空虚，我无法用任何字体来形容。 我的心痛了。